I've been in a relationship for over six years and since I was in my teens. I do love my boyfriend but he seems to want to change me in so many different ways. One of the key things I'm getting a bit frustrated about is his assertion that if I don't lose x amount of weight in the next couple of years, he won't commit to marrying me. In fact, he'll leave me. His argument is that he is not going to marry somebody that is potentially going to die early from being over weight.
I've heard this several times and since we've moved in together he has been nagging a lot. I'm losing weight steadily but my natural tendency towards being lazy and eating are rather strong...
Anyway, I went out last night and I was talking about this with a friend and he was outraged. He said that whilst I might not be my bf's number 10 right now, I will be somebody else's number 10 and that I should be with somebody who loves me unconditionally. He said that I clearly don't think I'm able to do any better and that perhaps I'm only still in this relationship because I have low self esteem. This has got me thinking and now I'm really confused. Am I just with my bf because I don't know any different or because I'm scared of being on my own or because I think this is the best that there is?
Aaargh! Why can't things be simple? What should I say to my bf? Whenever I talk to him about these kind of things, he gives a really logical argument and it all makes perfect sense. I want to lose weight too but should he really put a condition on our relationship like that?
